Thai massage is has a reputation for being intense or even painful. However, this does’t have to be the case. Without sacrificing effectiveness, the massage can be adjusted to your preferences and possibilities. So, what’s my approach?
Psychology identifies a mental state (called “Flow”) in which people are happiest when they experience a balance of challenge and relaxation. While relaxation is pleasant, it can become monotonous over time. On the other hand, if all you experience is challenge, you get stressed. We’re looking for a balance of both. Therefore, a good massage also must be deeply relaxing, while providing at the same time enough firmness to have an impact and also to hold your attention.
Many clients have pain in areas like the shoulders, back, or calves. It’s normal for these areas to feel tender during treatment. If the massage causes genuine pain though, your body will tense up, which is the opposite of what we want. It’s entirely possible to treat these areas without causing you to tense up. By going slow, by listening to the clients’ body, sensing where the boundaries are, and if necessary by asking.
Most recipients can handle an amount of challenge well, especially when they sense the much-needed relief it brings.
The massage should be more of a collaboration than an imposition. That way the receiver can keep a sense of control and stay relaxed. Even if it hurts a bit sometimes.